The Approval I Still Pretend I Don’t Want

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The Approval I Still Pretend I Don’t Want

I like to think I’ve outgrown the need for approval.

That I make decisions calmly. Independently. Uninfluenced.

But every now and then, I catch it — that small internal pause after sharing an idea. The subtle scan for response. Agreement. Validation.

It’s not loud. It’s not desperate.

It’s quiet.

Approval doesn’t disappear with age. It becomes refined. Less obvious. More dignified.

It hides inside competence.

Inside responsibility.

Inside “I don’t care what people think.”

But I do — sometimes.

Not because I doubt myself.

Because we are built for recognition.

The difference now is this: I try not to let approval decide direction.

It may visit. It may linger.

But it doesn’t get to steer.

Some maturity isn’t about eliminating the need to be seen.

It’s about noticing it — and continuing anyway.

What Next?

Recognition feels good.

Direction matters more.

💬 When was the last time approval quietly influenced your choice?

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  1. DT. Rutuja Rushikesh Shingroop17 March 2026 at 23:14

    Maturity generally refers to the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual growth needed to manage life effectively and adapt to new situations. Key types include emotional maturity (managing feelings), mental maturity (admitting faults), social maturity (adapting to norms), and physical maturity (taking care of health).When we grow through our experiences and develop our own perspective in all these aspects, we become truly mature. At that point, we are capable of making the right decisions, and we also feel a deep sense of satisfaction and confidence about those decisions.👌👍

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