“I Thought Healing Meant Never Hurting Again—It Doesn’t”

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“I Thought Healing Meant Never Hurting Again—It Doesn’t”

Understanding emotional growth as nonlinear


🩹 I Thought I Had Healed

There was a time I believed that healing was a finish line.
That if I journaled enough, forgave enough, meditated enough—
I’d finally reach that magical point where nothing could shake me.

No more overthinking.
No more triggers.
No more ache in the chest from a memory I thought I’d buried.

I thought healing meant never hurting again.
I was wrong.



🔁 Healing Is a Spiral, Not a Straight Line

One morning, a familiar situation unfolded—
Something small.
Something old.
But it brought back that feeling.

Tight throat. Fast thoughts. Sudden shame.

And I remember thinking:

> “How am I still feeling this? Haven’t I done the work?”



That’s when I realized—
Healing doesn’t erase wounds.
It teaches us how to tend to them when they reopen.

You don’t un-feel.
You just un-fear.


🧠 Growth Isn’t Measured by How Little You Hurt…

…it’s measured by how gently you respond when you do.

Earlier, I’d blame myself for feeling “too much.”

Now, I pause and offer myself the same compassion I’d offer a child in pain.


That’s healing.


✨ 3 Reminders for Anyone on a Healing Journey

1. Relapse isn’t failure
You might overthink again. Get anxious again. React the old way.
It’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re human.


2. Triggers are teachers
If something still stings, it’s showing you where softness is still needed.
Not shame—softness.


3. Progress is invisible sometimes
You may not see it. But others will.
In your patience. In your words. In how long you wait before reacting.



❤️ My Healing Isn’t Linear—and That’s Okay

Some days I glow. Some days I crumble.
But the difference now is—I don’t abandon myself during either.

I no longer wait for perfection to declare I’m healed.
Because healing isn’t about becoming someone who never falls apart.
It’s about becoming someone who knows how to gather the pieces, lovingly.



✅ What Next?

If you’re still hurting, even after all the “healing”—you’re not failing.
You’re evolving, quietly.

💬 Has your healing journey surprised you in some way?
Share your thoughts or pass this to someone who needs to hear it.

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