“I Don’t Know What I’m Doing”—And That’s Okay

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Introduction

There are days when I stare at my goals, my to-do list, or even my reflection and think:

> “Am I doing this right?”
“What if I’m messing it all up?”
“Shouldn’t I have figured this out by now?”



It’s a quiet feeling most of us carry. Especially the responsible ones. The achievers. The givers.
But here’s what I’ve come to believe:

> Not knowing isn’t failure. It’s freedom.



And today, I want to talk about the courage it takes to admit:

> “I don’t have all the answers. And that’s perfectly human.”




We’re All Figuring It Out

Your friends. Your mentors. Even your boss or your parents.

We’re all just improvising with the tools we have—experience, instinct, feedback, hope.

Nobody gets a handbook titled “Here’s exactly how to live your life.”
We learn. We try. We stumble. We try again.

The ones who grow the most?
They admit they don’t know—and ask better questions.


Growth Begins with Confusion

Think of the last time you truly learned something:

A new skill

A new role

A shift in mindset


Did it come with clarity? Or confusion?

Most breakthroughs start with “I don’t know how…”
That moment of uncertainty is not a dead end—it’s the beginning of growth.


You Don’t Have to Fake It

We live in a culture that rewards confidence—even when it’s pretend.
But honesty is underrated.

Saying:

“I need help”

“I don’t understand this yet”

“I’m feeling lost right now”


Doesn’t make you weak. It makes you trustworthy.
Vulnerability builds bridges. Faking it builds walls.


Life Has Seasons—Confusion Is One of Them

Not every phase will be productive or inspiring.
Some days will feel like waiting rooms. Fog. Uncertainty.

And that’s okay.

You’re not stuck. You’re processing.
The clarity will come. Often quietly. Often when you’re not looking for it.


What Helps Me When I Feel Lost

I journal, even if it’s messy

I talk to someone I trust, even if it’s uncomfortable

I focus on the next small right thing—not the whole plan

I remind myself: Not knowing isn’t a flaw. It’s space.



Final Thought

So if today you feel behind, unsure, unmotivated—
Let me say it again:

> You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You just have to stay open, stay honest, and keep showing up.



Because sometimes, the most powerful growth starts with five simple words:
“I don’t know. Not yet.”


What Next?

Share this with someone quietly struggling with self-doubt

Comment with a time you learned something after feeling lost

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Comments

  1. Bhushan Deshpande26 October 2025 at 21:38

    Start the work with positivity, understand the risk, don't lose focus, and set a mindset that if anything goes wrong, it will be my responsibility. you will get the success.

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  2. Archit Sunil Pandharipande26 October 2025 at 22:12

    Thank you so much from bringing clarity dear Rohit

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  3. DT. Rutuja Rushikesh Shingroop27 October 2025 at 00:40

    Yesss... very true

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  4. DT. Rutuja Rushikesh Shingroop30 October 2025 at 02:39

    Absolutely true! Children imitate the way we behave, so we should also try to act carefully and thoughtfully at all times.

    ReplyDelete

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